Return of a friend

The other night I spent some time with someone I had little to no contact with in a year. She had recently resurfaced and wanted to hang out with me and all that crap. I guess I avoided her in the past because I remember the mind numbing awkwardness of two people who had almost nothing to talk about and even less chemistry.

Well to my surprise, she is a completely different person. What was once painful silence is now replaced with an unobstructed flow of real conversation, though most of the conversation consisted of debating, critisizing and off color jokes, it was still a REAL conversation!
The vibrant personality that she had always hidden from me was out in the open for all to see. I could barely believe it.
Later on I found out why she was in such a funk last year... apparently she had some unfinished issues that she had not quite gotten over. After we had broken up, she went back to deal with these issues and unfortunately she ended up being disappointed again.
She was reluctant to tell me about it because she assumed I would call her stupid for doing what she did. That's when I told her about my similar "issue" a couple of years ago which is well documented in my blog if she ever wanted to read about it!

I told her that everybody wastes their time and emotions on people and things that don't deserve it, but often times the only way we learn is the hard way and that includes doing something "stupid".


That's when I was reminded of her strength of character and why I could never bring myself to dislike her even when she was being the world's biggest bitch. Sure I made some off color remarks about her in response to her disrespectful and sometimes bizzare behavior, but I never hated her. I also realized while talking with her that we have a lot in common after all.
I'm finally seeing the real person and I have to admit, I like what I see..... when she isn't being "influenced" by an outside stimulus that is.

It's funny how life works out. You put someone up on a 20 story pedestal and imagine the great "connection" you have with each other only to find out that there isn't much of one at all and the relationship ends in lies and betrayl (sounds like a soap opera) Then there's someone you don't have much in common with and don't think much of at all, but it turns out that you have a stronger connection with them than you thought possible.

She's a good kid. I think I'll keep her around for awhile.