SOUL MATE, many people don't realize the dangers of using the term "SOULMATE". Not knowing that they will open a huge shit storm when these words are used. It is nearly as dangerous as using the words "I LOVE YOU" *shudder*
The words 'soulmate' brings about unexpected and unrealistic expectations that "THE ONE" is able to connect with you, and also that "THE ONE" is capable and has the responsiblity of taking care of the relationship LIKE YOU DO. NOT SO!! That's a pretty fucked up thing to put on a person when you think about it.
Relationships still have to developed the same way, through communcation and through a lot of work to survive the pit falls. Don't take the words soulmate so damn lightly. When or if you ever do call somebody that, you'd better be damn sure that they feel the same about you (hence the communication). More importantly, make sure YOU feel this way about them or else you're going to have some real problems down the road.
"You are the one" can have a similar meaning, but it doesn't imply the unrealistic expectations that come along with "YOU are my SOULMATE!"
SO in conclusion, dont trivalise these two sentences,
"I LOVE YOU"
"YOU ARE MY SOULMATE"
Unless you are ready to suffer the pain of great dissapointment.
Personally, I've never called someone my soulmate because I think it sounds so pathetically gay.
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So - Does this mean you aren't my SOULMATE? What am I going to do with all these expectations that have piled up???
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. Someone calling you their soul mate out of the blue is a overwhelming experience if you don't feel the same. I think it's 1000x worse than "I love you".
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I found this interesting quote:
ReplyDelete"Some of us, if we're lucky, have a great marriage and find a soul mate on the side: a friend at work, say, or someone we encounter online. Soul mates don't have to be about sex or marriage. The soul doesn't care about all that stuff, about a person's taste in restaurants or flossing habits or ability to argue a point. All it wants -- whether we owners know it or not -- is the company of other like-minded souls. "
I couldn't agree more.
*Ray*
That was a great quote and I too agree! As much as the dreamers would like to believe, no one person is going to fufill all your needs, you got to have a soulmate or three on the side!
ReplyDeleteSpeaking of which, congrats again on the incoming wedding!! I KNEW you two would get married! He's a good guy. I'm looking forward to the wedding. Just don't forget about your soulmate in K-town, y'hear??