Ok, I was talking to this girl that I've known for a while and she is now traveling the path of a saved one. We got into a discussion about sex for no apparent reason. She goes on and on about how sex is something special shared between two people that love each other. She also said that sex is overrated.
I'm thinking bullshit.
I told her that you make it what you make of it. Some think it's the worst thing on earth, some embrace it like a philosophy. But it's pretty hard to ignore that sex at one time or another will affect you in ways that you might not think or might not like to think. It doesn't happen to everyone, but it does happen.
It seems these days we've made sex into a casual activity. Something two people two, almost like going out to the movies, or bowling. And sure, protect yourself and be responsible, and why not? Feels great.
But then we still want to keep sex as a meaningful act between two people. An expression of love, more than words can say, all that jazz. And yeah, if you're in love and you have sex, that's a great experience.
But how can the two co-exist? What about cheating? If my girlfriend goes to the movies with some guy that's okay, but if he fucks her that's not okay? What if she goes to the movies with some guy and has a long and meaningful talk with him and really connects and just feels good all around, then goes home and fucks me? What if she goes to a party, gets drunk, and has sex with some random guy? Which is worse? What if she has sex with another girl?
I want to be able to enjoy a life where I could have random, meaningless sexual encounters if I wanted to. But I also want to have a monogamous relationship with my girlfriend if I'm serious about her. As a society, can we do both? I'm not sure myself.
oh and by the way, anyone who says sex is overrated isn't doing it right.
This caused her to pause a little bit and she said that I brought up a very valid point and she looked at me with a newfound respect and admiration. I quickly put a stop to that by suggesting that she let me stick my penis inside her and see what kind of affect it would have on us. I woke up 3 hours later in an alley with a black eye and a really bad headache.
Oh well.
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Well, you know what I think. Sex can be casual, and sex can be meaningful.
ReplyDeleteAs far as the cheating goes - that depends on you and your partner. My sister thinks that if her man goes to a strip club, it's the same as cheating. So stupid!
What about when you are doing it right, but the dumbass you're with isn't? Would that be overrated? Or just a waste of time?
i think too many people have casual sex, with STDs, pregnancies, and just all this risk involved with sex i don't think it should be accpeted to be a slut. i personally think sex should just be for people in relationships, but we're only human it's hard to have self control sometimes.
ReplyDelete--Nik
Sorry to hear about your fitness model friend. That's a real tragedy and it must be hard for you. If you ever want to talk about it, just give me a call.
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The risk of STDs and pregnancy is real. For some people, it's too much of a risk, and they choose to abstain. However, for most of humanity, we enjoy sex. It's a healthy and natural thing to want sex, no matter how you like it.
ReplyDeleteAs for the "slut" comment, just because you have sex casually once in a while doesn't automatically make you a slut. Nor does having sex when you aren't married or otherwise monogomously attached.
Physical pleasure is an amazing thing, and why on earth anyone would deny themselves that or convince themselves that they're dirty if they do experience it is beyond me.
As a side note, I have to say that I always wondered what two "virgin till married types" do on their wedding night. I'd pay to watch that spectacle. "what's that?" "It's ugly.. what do you do with that?" hehe....