White woman's burden.

biding her time



Why is it that divorced white women are suddenly interested in dating black men? I can't count how many times I've been approached by them over the years. At first I thought it was just some sort of coincidence, but it's happened to me so many times, it made me think.

What drives the seemingly happy WASP Betty home maker to be drawn to the "darkness" after she ditches her mild mannered white hubby? Do they want to explore some bullshit Mandingo fantasy? Or maybe they've been attracted to black men all along. If that's true, why not marry a black guy in the first place?



This has always intrigued me since high school. One girl in particular dated exclusively black guys, but not me since I was the big ol' fat kid. Anyway, her parents never knew about it, being the conservative southern traditionalist they were. In other words, they were racist. It was funny how she concealed this fact from them by getting one of her white friends to pick her up for dances and taking their photos together to appease the white parents and then she got together with her real boyfriend and takes a seperate set of photos with him. This happened all throughout high school. I thought it was pretty fucked up myself. Don't think I could be anyone's "dark little secret". Well maybe I could if I was just using her for sex...ahem.



ANYWAY, everyone thought for sure that these two were going to get married or she was definitely going to marry a black man, but lo and beyond she stuns everyone by marrying some average white dude and having a couple of kids.

They later divorced and now she's dating black men again.

Not the first time I've seen shit like this happen either. I remember this one girl I knew in college who said she's going to marry a white guy to satisfy her parents and when they're dead, she's going to dump the white dude and start going out with the "bruthas" again. God, I wanted to kick her fucking teeth in. Like we're good enough to date, but GOD FORBID that we might actually be good enough to MARRY! Perish the thought!



I talked to another friend of mine who was married and divorced a white guy even though she dated primarily black men throughout college and she revealed a disturbing truth that I've always suspected. She said part of the reason she married the white guy was to satisfy her conservative parents. She said being raised in a bible belt household there was tremendous pressure to marry within your own race and squirt out a couple white grandkids.

I think the whole thing is sad. Grown women still feeling so pressured to live by their PARENT'S ideals that they sacrifice their individuality in order to please them.

This whole thing makes me wonder just how many happily married white women are going through the same thing?



I guess I'm fortunate to be raised by parents whose philosophy was this: "We don't care what color the girl is, just make sure you don't knock her up! We're not raising any more damn kids!" Ah, I can feel the love.



Now I've crossed the color barrier a few times in my day despite the great risk to my personal safety, but I don't care! I'll take ANY risk in the name of love!! Well.... that and certain... sexual favors. Anyhoo, when it comes to dating white girls, I've met all types: The "curious" ones wondering about the stereotype about our genitalia, the "status seekers" who seem to think that bagging a black guy is a huge accomplishment. Nothing I love more than finding out that a girl is referring to me as "her black boyfriend." The ones who grew up in suburbia yet feel compelled to speak ebonics to me... I don't know what the fuck they're saying!

And of course there are the ones who look at me as a regular guy. Yes, they do exist!

Unfortunately, you have to go through a LOT of chicks like the ones mentioned before to find them and I'm too lazy to exert that kind of effort.



Okay, I forgot what my ultimate point was, but I've made several. Fuck it, I'm tired. I'm going home.