Yet another reason for my awesomeness is my ability to drag a minimal amount of baggage with me when I go into a new relationship. I figure why let my dealings with a few insensitive, uncaring, manipulative skank bags taint my current love/lust interest? This girl hasn't done anything to deserve that kind of shit from me.
Hell, considering all the times I've been burned before, I should be the most bitter, vindictive, mistrusting mother fucker on the planet! But I'm not. Now I admit I have my moments of weakness, but compared to a vast majority of people and the crap I've gone through, I think I do all right. Of course I didn't always have this maturity and it took me awhile to get where I'm at today, but it was worth it. Some people would call it a weakness or being naive. I call "those people" DUMB FUCKS.
If the alternative is going through life thinking every chick is going to cheat on me, steal my money or threaten my life just because of the actions of one or two crazy broads, I'd rather be weak and naive.
Besides, you could miss out on some really cool things the new chick can offer you if you go in with an attitude like that. She might even be THE ONE™.
Not ALL my relationships were shitty though. Far from it. There have been a lot more great relationships than bad ones. The bad ones are just a lot more fun to bitch about! No, the exes who were worth a damn are still very close friends of mine. The ones I don't give a shit about, I have nothing to do with.. A simple philosophy that preserves sanity and prevents unecessary bloodshed and jail time. NO chick is worth THAT.
Besides, Karma has a way of dispensing justice.
Example: the chick who left me for some construction worker is unmarried, knocked up with her third kid (father unknown), works at a truck stop and lives with her parents.
This is where I would normally laugh my balls off and do my famous Black Irish robot dance of joy, but I've already been karma's bitch a couple of times and I have no desire to go there again.
heh.
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Oh wow. You give a DAMN about me?? I'm so freakin' honored! Knock me over with a fucking feather! *Swooon* You like me! You really like me! I'm soooo lucky!!
ReplyDelete-Jess
Yeah, really. I feel so wonderful knowing you give a damn about me, Vince!
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You're not so bad yourself.
-CR
Thanks, Vince. You have come a long way and I'm glad to be your friend. I don't know too many other people who can do the clean slate thing that you do.
ReplyDeleteVery good point on the missing out thing. Allowing past predjudices mess up your current relationship just gives those shit heads that much power! Don't give them that satisfaction!
I'd give you a great big huggy wuggy if I were there right now! =)
*Ray*
someone seems to be popular with the ladies!
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Cool post. You are so right about the baggage thing. The Bitch, which is what I call my ex gf now, btw, had TONS of baggage concerning her loser ex bf. I had to hear all this shit about how much of a prick he was, but after some bullshit sweet talk by him, suddenly the bitch decides she's still in love with him and takes him back.
ReplyDeleteLooking back, I should've seen the signs. Let this be a lesson to everyone. If you're with someone who always bitches about their ex, yet they still hang out with them, RUN!!!!
I've been doing pretty good doing the clean slate thing with my current gf, who is really cool, btw, but part of me is still on the look out for any bitch-like behavior.
I think you should win the award for 'Best Title for a Post' :)
ReplyDeleteBlack irish robot dance of joy??? LOL! How funny!
ReplyDeleteabomination:
Sucks you had to go through that crap, but I think we've all been involved in the dreaded rebound trap. I think people should go through a psych evaluation after they break up with someone to see if they're really over them. Until then they should be quarantined until they're deemed safe to start dating again! That would prevent a lot of innocent bystanders from getting hurt! LOL!
It's an idea.
-CW
i dunno bout the whole friends with exes thing. Once I'm done dating them, I'm done with them--period. Most women don't like the idea of their men being friends with their old girlfriends anyway.
ReplyDeleteIf I'm with a girl and she OCASSIONALLY whines about her old boyfriend, that's cool. If she's always bitchin about him but she's still "hangs out" with him?? Fuck that. I'm bouncin the hell outta there! I'm not gonna be anybody's rebound punk.
If the girl can't let go of her ex then she should STAY with her ex. She doesn't need to be draggin other people into their shit.
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If your girl can't accept your friends (even the exes), she's not worth it. It all comes down to trust. See, the only reason girls don't like exes is they think they are competition, or you are going to sleep with them.
If they trust you, it won't matter who you are friends with.
LOL! Good luck finding a woman like that! Some women may say they're fine with thier men having exes as friends, but most of the time they're NOT. She may trust her man, but she sure as hell doesn't trust the woman and sooner or later it's going to cause some tension, even if her man is 100 percent loyal. So why go through that?
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I AM a woman like that. I have hung out and even *gasp* become friends with my husbands exes. And not just relationship exes. Even the 'fuck buddies' were welcome. I am very secure that he's mine, and won't be won over by anyone else's 'feminine wiles'.
ReplyDeleteI would love to meet the woman that could actually take him away from me! :)
OOOOOooooo! IT'S ON NOW!!!
ReplyDeleteJerry! Jerry! Jerry!!
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-CR
Oh man. Only in this blog!
ReplyDelete-T
Nice post. It seems to be a rarity nowadays that someone like you is still around. It's a shame that people let their bad experiences continue to dictate their lives.
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Haha! I like the quarantine idea. A lot of people really need that. Unfortunately, most people don't have the discipline to spend some time alone and look inside themselves to decide if they're really ready to go on without their ex in their lives.
ReplyDeleteNo, usually the dumb asses jump right into another relationship before they even know what they want (which is usually to get back together with the ex). Or they try to make said ex jealous by dating someone else. When the ex "repents" the dumb ass happily takes them back. Either way, the third party involved is shit outta luck and that's just wrong.
Yep. Definitely liking the quarantine idea.
*Ray*
I think people do this because of companionship. When you break up with someone, one of the things you miss the most is the companionship and the feeling of being wanted/loved. It's a very hard thing to give up and many people rebound into other relationships so quickly to keep those feelings alive even though they may care little for the person they're with. They still use them as their security blanket. Until, like you said, they're ready to move on with their ex or someone else. I don't condon this by any means. I think it's incredibly selfish, immature and short sighted. Not to mention it's unfair to the rebound girl/guy. I'm just saying I can understand where they're coming from.
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HAHA! I've played the role of the the 'rebound punk', but I was smart enough to see the signs. At first, the ex ALWAYS used to bitch about how much of an asshole her old boyfriend was, but she was still friends with him?? Hmmm. No prob... as long as she wasn't fucking him. A few weeks later she started fondly remembering all the good times they used to have (BIG RED FLAG). A couple of weeks after that she started defending the "asshole" she supposedly couldn't stand everytime I made one negative comment about him. By this time it was obvious what was going to happen next. I had two choices: wait around for the "we need to talk" speech or start dating other women. I went with the second choice. By the time she got around to telling me the "news", I had been dating another girl for three weeks. She got pissed off when I told her! wtf?? lol!
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ReplyDeleteThat is EXACTLY what happened with me and the bitch! She did each and every step from hating her ex's guts to defending him from my insults! Unlike you, though, I wasn't bright enough to figure out what was going on.
At least your ex was considerate enough to tell you the truth. The bitch just disappeared on me and I had to track her down and make her tell me what was going on. I got the lame ass "I didn't want to see you hurt" speech.
I loved the way you handled things though! Nice job!
LA-
ReplyDeleteyeah, she was playin you. She was just using you as as stop over until she worked things out with her man. Bitch showed her true colors when she ran away. Props to you for making her to admit it. "I didn't want to see you hurt." Bullshit. That means she already got what she wanted so she doesn't have time to deal with something as trivial as your hurt feelings. Bitch.
Pw- I like the way you handled your shit man.
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Glad to see you guys aren't bitter or anything.
ReplyDelete-Jess
Waaaaaaaaaaaaaah!!! Waaaaaaaaaaah!!! All women suck! Waaaaaaah!!! I hate my ex!!!! Waaaaaah!!! I feel so used!!! Waaaaah!!! I can't move on with my life!!! Waaaaaah!!!! and so on...
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