Tuesday, November 22, 2005

Selfish friends

I just noticed something. I've noticed that there's a HUGE double standard with some of my "friends" when it comes to listening.
I’ve spent countless hours listening to my friends’ various problems and so called day crisis which range from family issues to some putz at work that looked at them wrong, I take it all in and listen to every word because to me, that’s what a friend does.

HOWEVER, whenever I have an issue that needs addressing or I want to get something off of my chest, these same “friends” suddenly don’t have the time to listen. They’ll either change the subject, get distracted by something stupid, pretend to listen, forget everything I said, 10 minutes later or my favorite, change the topic BACK TO THEM. Fucking ingrates

Usually I just let that shit slide, but no more. I used to say that I don’t expect anything in return for my help. Well that’s BULLSHIT. I’m not freakin’ Jesus and for now on there’s a fee… if you want me to listen to your problems you’re going to have to listen to mine. I don’t think that’s too much of a price to ask, do you?
Besides, I’m sure my “petty” problems PALE in comparison to yours, but guess what? You’re going to have to hear them anyway.

If you can’t do that, fine. I don’t lay my issues on friends who don’t ask or are otherwise uncomfortable listening to such things, that’s cool… not everyone can do the Dr. Phil thing, BUT don’t you fucking dare lay your shit on me. It’s selfish, it’s annoying and it’s a sure fire way for me to boot your irritating ass out of my life!

My name is Vincent.

I like pancakes.
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16 comments:

  1. ClaireNovember 22, 2005 at 12:35 PM

    I'm sorry did you say something?
    Now let me tell you what happened to ME last night...

    ^-^

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  2. fishjieNovember 23, 2005 at 8:39 AM

    I agree 100 percent! I used to have people do that shit with me and then they split whenever I had something to say. Fuck em I kicked all their asses to the curb. People like that arent your friends.

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  3. LizNovember 24, 2005 at 10:31 AM

    See, these people who do that shit are great to have. You can blackmail them and SHARE with your real friends and they can't do crap to you because they never actually heard anything you ever said. It's even better when it's someone you used to date or something! HINT HINT... NUDGE NUDGE... *evil grin*

    hehe :D

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  4. MelissaJuly 9, 2006 at 5:09 PM

    By any chance, are all of your friends girls? Or at least are the shitty friends girls? I have at least one friend who constantly talks about herself and her problems, but loses interest as soon as I begin to talk about myself. Grrr, when will people learn the proper etiquette when it comes to an equal give and take type of friendship?

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  5. AnonymousAugust 7, 2007 at 5:22 PM

    thanks Vincent, you made me review and think a particular friendship I have......You seem to be a very intelligent friend to have. Hope you have other friends.

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  6. ruschikaAugust 10, 2007 at 12:17 PM

    I love pancakes too.

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  7. AnonymousAugust 14, 2007 at 3:37 PM

    I agree. What gets me is when you do bring something up they say that you are taking up their time like it is more valuable than yours. BS!

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  8. AnonymousAugust 23, 2007 at 6:38 PM

    It's true. People love to talk about themseleves, especially the single people who float from one loser to the next. Guess what single people? Your married friends need to vent also.

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  9. AnneOctober 16, 2007 at 12:01 PM

    I agree so much with what you are all saying.Ive had a few friends for years- and lately I see them for the selfish shallow bitches they really are- its all take and no give- i feel like an unpaid counsellor most of the time- and they never have any time to listen to me- Ive had enough- Im 30 years old and id rather start again and get a whole new group than pretend that these lot are my friends anymore

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  10. itsmeagainNovember 24, 2007 at 11:54 AM

    I have the same problem with one of my friends. The part about you listening to them and when it's your turn to talk they totally ingore you, that's exactly what's happening with my friend and I. I can't stand it! Everytime she has a problem I'm there for her, but when the tables turn she acts as if my issues are not even important enough to pay attention to.

    Another example of her selfish ass: This past Thursday was Thanksgiving and also her birthday. Before school let out I told her Happy Birthday and all, but then the day after Thanksgiving she calls me pissed off that I didn't "call her on her Birthday". It's ThanksfuckingGiving! She seems to think the world revolves around her and that I have no family to spend time with. As a matter of fact she has never even told me Happy Birthday, and my b-day doesn't fall on a national holiday!

    Anyway, good luck with your selfish ass friend.

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  11. AnonymousSeptember 12, 2008 at 6:11 AM

    huh these kids of ppl. are all around. i can relate as i just got rid of one of those blood suckers..always complaining, talking about themselves, its so irritating usually when she called my cell i wouldnt answer.LOL

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  12. AnonymousOctober 28, 2008 at 10:40 AM

    Ha, you think YOU have problems? At least you HAVE friends! Now let's get back to ME and MY problems!

    Just kidding! That's just something that one of my selfish friends would have written to me if I had written that blog!

    I was just searching around for how to deal w/ selfish friends who don't listen, and your blog really hits the nail on the head! Glad that other people have the same exact problems... thanks for the entertaining read! It made me giggle!

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  13. M-DawgJuly 15, 2009 at 8:42 PM

    I feel the pain. Me and my homeboy decided to mutually quit chillen. We ain't the the same kinda friends we usta be but its cool now.

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  14. AnonymousOctober 23, 2009 at 12:59 PM

    OMG! Do we share the same "friend"... Haha, don't think so... But that part where they turn everything back to them, is... SO TRUE!

    Hey, listen to this one: When she broke up with her boyfriend, I spend the whole night with her on the phone, I called her ex and insult him and everything. EVEN WHEN I KNEW that she spend that same night with the guy I had a crush on, AND she knew about it, btw ) The thing is, that when I had my break-up situation, she just went like: "Aww, nothing surprise me anymore... Anyways, look this weekend I...I...I... AND I..." I wonder if she ever get tired of being selfish?!

    Anyways, luck there... It would be nice to know, that nice people have the rights to have GOOD friends.

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  15. MJanuary 1, 2010 at 5:23 PM

    I randomly found your blog and OMG i feel like your describing my life with my oh so selfless friends!!!

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  16. MJanuary 1, 2010 at 5:23 PM

    I randomly found your blog and OMG i feel like your describing my life with my oh so selfless friends!!!

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