Wednesday, January 5, 2005

Racism Rant

I was listening to the radio one morning and I heard a rather racist joke on the radio. Now it wasn't the most offensive joke I've heard and it wasn't even directed towards my own race, but it pissed me off enough to write the first rant of 2005.



Racism is in most cases, ignorance.



A typical racist wants to seperate themselves from other races, and think their race is better so they can have a sense of superiority.



Everyone is special and your race doesn't define who you are.



Also some people joke about racism and say racist things even though they don't mean it and that enables people that don't know it's a joke to think it's true.



It's weak, it's easy to be an idiot. It's easy to run away from the truth. It's easy to shut out everyone from a group, race, gender, etc, just because someone did something to you.



It takes real courage to put your heart and yourself on the line, Some racists just learned it from their fathers who themselves either wanted an excuse to make themselves feel like they are better than somebody else so they picked something arbitrary and visually obvious (race).

Of course some fathers learned it from their dad and never got the courage to face the truth, parents are supposed to guide their kids to the truth and through life but they aren't perfect and these particular parents that pass down racism unfortanately passed down a belief that is not only very inaccurate but also very damaging to not only to the person but to eveyrone around him.



The people who are racist and hate gays and anything that's not like them are just afraid.



Afraid of the truth, the fact that we aren't all that different and race doesn't define who you are. Afraid of the idea that there are people out there who don't share their religious beliefs. They simply label anything that is different as wrong and avoid thinking about it as much as possible, they just can't accept that someone might think differently than them (heaven forbid!).



ALL racists I've ever known usually hate themselves and their miserable little lives, but instead of aknowledging their own faults and work on a way to fix them they go for the most obvious scapegoat.



It all goes back to tearing others down to make yourself look better and feeling better about yourself (bully). When you are with your own race and you're talking shit about some other race it's easy to feel "special" and "powerful" because you're with your own "kind". These people (if they are enabling you) aren't going to stop you because you aren't talking about them and may even be feeling better about themselves because you're basically saying "All of us are better than them" and in a way you are saying "You are better than them" to that person. But of course it isn't right and it's 100% bull shit.



In short:



1) Don't let the actions of a person of a group , race or gender make you think that they are all the same.



2) Don't run away from your problems and try to make yourself feel "big" by tearing other people down and basically making up arbitrary shit so you can feel like you're better than them.



Be honest with yourself, face the truth and see things for what they are.



Now I know this sounds like some hippie "let's all get along" bullshit, but the truth of the matter is, I do NOT like racists. I don't like anything about them. I don't tolerate their prescence, their opinions or beliefs. Why the hell should I like someone who is so fucking small minded and cowardly, that they actually hate somebody solely based on skin color. There are so many other creative reasons to hate people and THIS is the best they can come up with? Pathetic.

I might sound like a hyporcrite, and usually I do the turn the other cheek thing, but this is the exception. If you want to do the "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" and "embrace thy enemy" crap, call Jesus. I'm NOT your man.



I'm also not too fond of people who tolerate racism. Tolerance is a form of acceptance and I feel that this is something that should NEVER be accepted. Once again this is just another example of enabling. Even if they don't agree with what the racist in their life is saying, they are still condoning their actions by not speaking up. They too are cowardly and weak and I have little respect for them.

Actually, I don't know who is worse... it's like trying to decide who disgusts you more when a kid burns a puppy to death while the mother stands there and watches.



Now I'm not saying that it's impossible for a racist to reform, in fact, I know a few who have, but that's only possible if they gain the courage to WANT to reform. That means forsaking everything they've ever been taught, everything they've grown up with, everything they've ever known and pretty much start from scratch. Unfortunately, this is a huge task for most of them, being the cowards that they are. You may as well ask them to walk on water.



I'm a pretty laid back and accepting kind of guy, but I just cannot and will not accept any of this kind of behavior. I don't care what color you are, you're either a racist or your not. There's no in-between...



Oh, and DON'T get me started about the hideous double standard when it comes to racism from non-whites. Oops! Too late!

Okay, it really pisses me off when I hear black people or any other minority for that matter spout all this racist shit about whitey this and whitey that and blah, blah, blah. But when a white person makes just ONE remark about minorities suddenly it's RACISM!!! HE'S A RACIST!!! TAKE TO THE STREETS!!! Why is this so accepted by society???

I'm sorry, but you reap what you sow. If you can't take a taste of your own medicine, shut the fuck up!

I've called a lot of people out on this and it has made me... unpopular to many of the people in my "community", but I don't give a damn. I'd rather stand alone with eyes open than march blindly with the sheep.



Okay, Just had to get that off my chest.

30 comments:

  1. Well said, man. That was freaking brilliant. Especially the part about the people who stand by and do nothing. They're just as guilty for the spread of racism.

    -pw

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  2. I know of a racist that reformed. In the strangest way too...
    He was actually a member of the KKK, and heavy into drug use. He loved his drugs. One day he looked around and noticed people of all races loved drugs just like him. He quit the KKK, and his son is married to a black girl -- and she is much loved by the family.

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  3. omg! that is so funny! One more reason to legalize pot!!

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  4. Ran across your page the other day and have been enjoying what I have read so far...I coulnt help but to post a comment today.
    Ranting is good, especially when it is the truth!
    Keep on throwing out the knowledge....maybe you will convert some ignorant person out there!!
    Take care,
    PC08

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  5. wow. that was a really good post. I especially agree about the part about people enabling these idiots by doing nothing. You are so right. It's passive attitudes like this that allow hate groups like the kkk and skinheads to exist in the first place. I once went out with a guy who had an older brother who was the most racist piece of garbage I've ever seen and his family pretty much indulged him by not doing anything as he vomitted his racist bullshit. In fact, they actually defended him when I confronted him about it! I broke up with the guy soon after that.
    Great post!

    -K

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  6. I've been reading this blog for a long time and I just had to comment.
    Some racists aren't as obvious as you think. I dated a guy who was well educated, been all over the world and had friends from various ethnic backgrounds. I thought he didn't have a racist bone in his body.
    That's until I told him that I dated a black guy. He said he didn't care, but the next couple of weeks he would barely touch me, hardly ever talked to me and he just... looked at me differently. It made me feel like total shit. Then he just disappeared for a week until he told me through fucking email that he couldn't be with me knowing "where I've been." making it sound like it was my fault for allowing myself to be "dirtied." WTF?! Yeah, nice piece of work there. Fuckin pussy.
    Up until that point, I thought that a racist fit the typical stereotype of some uneducated redneck hick or some kind scary looking skinhead. I know better now. I'm just glad I didn't marry the fucker.

    Sorry for bitchin. Great blog.

    -Dawn

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  7. Now THIS is the Vinnie I love! Ranting and raving like a madman for no good reason!
    Don't you love it when people try to make excuses for these dumbfucks? "DUH, well they don't really mean it." "Oh well it's not like he's a member of the KKK" "He's just kidding" and the bullshit goes on. These people need to die right now.

    -Jess

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  8. Dawn:
    That's so sad that you had to go through that crap. What an asshole!
    Did he show any signs at all? I hope you weren't blinded by the infamous rose tinted glasses (great, now I'm saying it!).
    Hell with him. Better you found out sooner than later! I couldn't imagine spending the rest of my life with a shithead like that!

    -CR

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  9. My sister is dating a racist and she does that whole making excuses for him crap. Crazy thing is, every time she dumps him she keeps taking him back! This has been going on for 4 years! She's dated other decent guys who treat her with respect and who actually have a future, but all it takes is for the racist asshole to smooth talk her and she takes him back in a heart beat. She's college educated, has a freaking masters degree in business and has a great future, but she's wrapped around the finger of this piece of white trash who works in some clothing factory. He knows exactly what she wants to hear and he uses that to control her. Everyone sees this but her! Every time I or other family members confront this loser about the way he treats my sister she takes HIS SIDE! My whole family hates him. Nobody eIse except his racist buddies can stand being around him. Her big excuses for him is "you don't see him the same way I do!" or "You only know one side of him!" or "I love him!" That's what really sets me off. She freaking loves this clown! It's embarrassing. I decided the hell with it. As long as he doesn't hit her, she's on her own. She doesn't even see that he's holding her back! You're absolutely right about the enabling statement.
    I really hope she comes to her senses before she gets knocked up or marries this waste of oxygen.

    -Tony

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  10. I don't know which I find more intriguing: The blog or the comments. This is really incredible stuff!

    -SW

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  11. LMAFO!! Drugs reforming a klan member?!! I can see it now. Addicts of every race color and religion holding hands outside a crack house singing koom ba ya!

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  12. Damn boy! You did it again. *laugh*

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  13. Racism exists because the whole human species is goddamn pathetic, and one of the obvious common flaws in human nature is elitism. We constantly find ways to say "My group is better than yours....I'm better than you." Egotistical, self-righteous, condescending, ignorant, elitist shit = human nature.

    -X

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  14. Ah, it's nice to know in this era of political correctness, racism and hatred is still alive and well. *wipes tear*

    Sad thing is, I've experienced/heard stories just like these a million times before!

    PC08: Thanks for the props. It would be cool if my ranting actually enlightened some ignorant slob! I looked at your blog. You're fine! Thank you.

    K: Yeah, prime example of your typical, passive, enabling family. I have personal experience in this one. Glad you got out of there.

    Dawn: Been there, done that. I know his type. He's the kind of racist who is slightly more accepting of "minorities" and may even have a few "ethnic" friends because he knows it's the socially acceptable thing to do, but he still keeps them at a certain distance away from his comfort zone. When you revealed you dated someone who wasn't white, you invaded this zone and his true nature was revealed. Just because he is educated and well traveled doesn't exclude him from being a racist. Ignorance doesn't mean stupidity.
    And yes, you're right about the stereotypes. A racist enviroment can exist any where. Some of the most racist people I've ever known grew up in upper middle class suburbia. Also, as I said before, removing a person from the racist enviroment isn't always enough, as your "well traveled" ex boyfriend demonstrates. In the end, it's up to the person finding the courage to want to change for the better.

    Jess: Yeah, I've heard all those excuses, too.


    Tony: You don't have to be smart to be a manipulative socialpath which is what your sister's boyfriend is. Your sister's intelligence and education doesn't mean much if she's emotionally insecure about herself.
    I commend you for trying to knock some sense into her, but all the yelling and screaming in the world isn't going to do anything unless SHE finally decides to leave him for good. Right now she's living in her own little deluded world and only sees him how she wants to see him to be and doesn't see what he really is.
    Again, I have personal experience with this.

    X: Your outlook is gloomy as hell, but you have a point about the elitist thing.

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  15. I feel kind of stupid for not being able to catch any possible signs, but you're absolutely right about what kind of person he is. Older and wiser I guess!
    You give good advice!

    -Dawn

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  16. Don't beat yourself up over it nobody's perfect.I'm sure people have made worse mistakes that that!
    and don't make vinnie's head any bigger than it already is! -_^

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  17. Some of these stories are so sad! It's a shame we still have to deal with crap like this.

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  18. It may sound crazy, but I would rather deal with your typical kkk or skinhead member because it's obvious where they are coming from and you can avoid them. People like the one dawn had to deal with are kind of scary because they hide it so well and you never see it coming

    -T

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  19. I've been dating a guy for 2 years now who is prejudice against black people and he's especially against interracial relationships. He just thinks they're wrong and shouldn't be allowed and he always makes some rude comment whenever he sees a mixed couple. Not out loud, but usually to me. What he doesn't know is that before I met him, I dated several black guys in college. I've thought about telling him this because it kind of feels like I'm ashamed of what I did (which I'm not), but at the same time, I'm scared of what his reaction would be. Reading Dawn's story reminded me of that. I know I may sound like one of these weak cowardly "enablers", but I just can't help it. I love this man with all my heart and it would tear me up if he left me or looked at me like I was trash. I know his racist views are wrong and I do say something when he makes a stupid black joke and he really is a decent man and he treats me well, he's just too set in his ways and I have to accept his bad traits as well as his good ones. Anyway I just felt compelled to respond to this post.

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  20. Well said Vincent..and for the last anonymous blogger, if you marry that man you will inevitable breed racist kids..sad but true.

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  21. You said you aren't ashamed of the fact that you dated a couple of black guys and yet you were too scared to speak out when this prick started insulting mixed couples?
    Sounds like you're ashamed to me. You're also weak.
    But that's okay you've been with this guy for two years so what difference does it make? No need to rock the boat with your dirty little secret now is there? You just continue living happily ever after with your small brained, racist piece of shit boyfriend.
    I hope posting here has alleviated some of your "guilt".

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  22. "Too set in his ways??" There's the mother of all cop outs!

    Personally, if I were ever stupid enough to be stuck with a punk like that, I would want to see if his love for me was stronger than his hatred for black people.
    As for keeping your "little secret", is there a chance of him finding out from somebody else? If there is, that could make things a whole lot worse, so you might as well "come clean". If there's no way of him finding out, then do what abomination said and keep your mouth shut. No reason to ruin your perfectly happy life with your hate mongering husband.
    I hope your future kids are smart enough to not be like him. -_-

    -CR

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  23. Oops! I meant hate mongering BOYFRIEND. Sorry! ^_^

    -CR

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  24. Come on, people. Keep it civil. Though once again this is a story I've seen and experienced a dozen times before.

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  25. Civil?? Oh come on!
    "I know racism is, like, wrong and stuff, but I just love the bastard sooooo much"
    Weak, pansy ass, shit, if you ask me. If you believe something is wrong, stand up and say it. Dare the little fucker to dump you. And yes, you will have racist kids. You know why? Because you are too weak to stand up to him now. What makes you think that after a few more years of being his 'little woman' you'll be any stronger? Would you be will to tell him about your ex-boyfriends after you said your 'I do's'? Wouldn't you have more at stake?
    Geez! That is the kind of ignorant fucking shit that pisses me off!!!!
    -The Whitest Chick Ever- (with my own 'dark past')

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  26. Would you be ABLE to tell

    Geez, damn typos!

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  27. rofl! So much for the cry for help! Damn!

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  28. J:
    That was the poorest example and blaringly WRONG piece of writing I have EVER seen. I was truly offeneded by your perverse insensitivity! There is NO excuse for such a thing to be said on my blog. You should be dragged out into the street and beaten within an inch of your life for your incredible lack of consideration and respect. People like you make me SICK! I'm actually shaking as I'm typing this right now! What were you thinking???
    I'm letting you slide this time because you're my friend, but take this as your FINAL warning: I will NOT accept any more typos like that from you in my blog again!! Shame on you!

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  29. *hanging head in shame* I'll try harder next time...
    Within an inch of my life, eh? Kinda mild for you, isn't it?

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  30. To the chick with the racist boyfriend, it sounds like you're a text book example of co-dependent. If that's true, you'll never be happy in this relationship with this man. Just my little dime store psychology lesson.

    *Ray*

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