The one thing I find annoying is when truly beautiful women don't realize how beautiful they are. Just because they don't reflect the ideal image of what society deems as "beautiful", they think they are ugly, unattractive and unwanted. Their self esteem is driven further and further into the gutter as they are constantly reminded of their "ugliness" either directly or indirectly.
They find it impossible to believe that someone might actually find them attractive and each attempt to tell them otherwise is instantly met with suspicion and/or open hostility. Either way, the bottom line is: they don't believe you. Try as you might, you may as well be talking to a brick wall.
I've dealt with this situation time and time again and it does get a little tiresome when I'm basically called a liar when all I'm doing is truthfully telling the person how amazing they are. One of the simple pleasures I have when I'm lying in bed with my woman is admiring the work of art that is her naked body and letting her know how much I appreciate it. It's kind of a big kick in the nut sack when they look at you like you're insane or just say your full of crap.
I don't care, though. I don't care if they think I'm patronizing them. I don't care if they think I have an ulterior motive. I don't care if they think I'm some kind of "freak of nature" for actually DARING to be physically attracted to them. True, I seem to have a somewhat different ideal of what beauty is, but that's okay. God forbid if I don't think pencil thin women are attractive. I should be shot dead for having the gall to think that a woman with curves is actually GASP! Attractive! What the hell is wrong with me for thinking that a chick who doesn't have a single digit dress size can still considered stunning??? I've actually had relationships end because of my "outrageous" beliefs!
It's frustrating to say the least, but it's hard to be mad at them. I know it's not their fault. The main culprit is the relentless "conditioning" they've been fed since childhood on what they should look like. All the compliments in the world isn't going to change that over night. I should know since I grew up as the "fat kid" through most of high school so I definitely know what's going through their heads, which explains my patience. Hey, my total awesomeness didn't happen over night... but I digress. I hope to see the day when these women finally realize what I've always known: That they're BEAUTIFUL.
If not, I'll have to give them a swift kick in the ass with the BOOT OF JUSTICE.
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Awesome post! I know a lot of men that feel the same as you, they don't like the skinny, skinny girls they like a girls with curves...
ReplyDeleteThank-you from a curvy brunette
From bashing poor poppin' fresh to this. I always said you have range, vinnie!
ReplyDeleteSeriously, great post. I'm impressed.
speaking of ideal beauty, are you still dating that fitness model chick? Just wondering. -_^
-CR
Amen! I love a woman with curves too! As long as they're not grossly obese that is! You gotta watch out for the ones with the low self esteem. They usually give it up to the first dude that smiles at them.
ReplyDeleteI had to look at the date on this to make sure it wasn't a repeat. Didn't you rant about this before? But I agree. When people think you're lying, it sucks. A real kick in the FACE.
ReplyDeleteAbomination -- Where do you get this shit? First guy that smiles at them? *laugh* Have you ever seen a guy smile at a girl he is hoping to fuck? It's almost creepy...
As much as I'd like to whack abomination over the head with a sock full of quarters, he's got a point. PEOPLE with low self esteem tend to be more reckless in their decisions when it comes to relationships. A lot of times they end up with some loser who is clearly beneath them.
ReplyDeleteGetting involved with someone with low self esteem is VERY high maintenence and requires a lot of patience. Nice to know that there's people like you around, Vince. =)
*Ray*
J:
ReplyDeleteThat proves my point. Chicks who don't think much of themselves will hook up with any scum bag who shows them the tiniest gesture of kindness . That includes creepy sex smile dude. There are a lotta guys who target chicks like this because they know it's a sure thing.
In other words, if they don't think they're worth shit, that's what they're going to end up with.
Man we women really suck! Maybe we're all CODEPENDENT!! Lol! Just kidding! Last thing we need is that "H" lady to start yappin again.
ReplyDeleteLOL! It's a no win situation when it comes to the low self esteem types! Praise the girl and she calls you a liar, don't praise her enough, she'll get pissed and dumps you for somebody who "appreciates" her more.
Why put yourself through this? There are plenty of normal women out there who don't need a support group.
I never quite understood you showing all this kindness and compassion towards people you care about and not expecting anything in return... that's so crazy!
-Jess
EXCELLENT POST! I hope these women learn to appreciate you and themselves more in the future.
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I really liked this post. I know a lotta gorgeous women who *do* fit the beauty stereotype perfectly, but they are still extremely insecure about themselves.
ReplyDeleteI guess it's all in the head
Yeah!! Good to see that they're are some men out there who like REAL women!!
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Go, Vincent! I really dig the naked work of art line. I'm glad to see that you don't take their rejection of your comments personally. They're probably just not used to hearing such things. Or, like abomination said, they've probably heard the same things before from assholes who have taken advangtage of them in the past.
ReplyDeleteThat's a damn shame too it makes it so much harder for honest guys like us who really like women with a little meat on their bones. ;)
-Tony
great post.
ReplyDeletei used to be of the "oh, i am so ughhhh-ly" party myself.
until i started picking up men like wildfire, and realized:
yes, i am hot.
thanks. the world needs more guys like you.
Well said. I couldn't have said it better myself!
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That's awesome. Rock on man!
ReplyDeleteTalk about being the exact opposite of the ideal beauty. I'm 6'2 and I was a size 24 In high school. I spent most of my life thinking I was a waste of space, but I eventually discovered that I was pretty damn hot! A lot of thanks goes to my fiance's constant support despite my constant rejection. He shares a lot of the same views on beauty as you do. Now I'm a size 15 and I'm happy with the way I look. You keep on supporting your friends. I promise they'll appreciate you in the long run. :)
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CR: She's a fitness INSTRUCTOR. We're just friends. Yes, she's very beautiful in her own right and she's a good kid (notice the twinkling beady eyes)
ReplyDeleteHeydere: Yes, you are hot!
Renee:
Wow. Your fiance is like a lucky man. It must be a great feeling when a woman you KNOW is beautiful finally aknowledges it herself.
Anyway, I don't consider it support as much as just stating the obvious. When I think a woman is drop dead gorgeous I'm going to tell them whether they believe me or not. Still... it would be nice to see them think the same thing.
Awesome to see that I'm not alone in my views, btw.
Haha! Thanks! Although, I have to admit I was a pain in the ass for couple of years before I became sane, which makes me appreciate him all that more.
ReplyDeleteNo matter what your intentions are, believe me every encouraging word makes a difference. ;)
-Renee
Whoa! the blog censor police strikes again! What happened there?? Don't worry, Vinnie... you'll find your curvy amazon someday. ^-^
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I just wanted to join in on the thick woman love! Keep on preaching the knowledge, V!
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A lot of thicker women go through this little insecurity phase. The trick is catching them when they finally grow out of it because the one thing I can't stand is a crybaby. I may not sound like Mr. Sensitive, but think of it this way- for every one overly insecure woman out there, there's about a dozen who DO like the way they look...well enough to not always bitch anyway.
ReplyDeleteSo why waste time with Ms. "Nobody likes me, I'm so ugly waaaah!" when there are plenty of other girls out there who don't need so much frigging maintenence?
More power to you, Vince. I salute your patience to put up with that mess. Less work for me! ;-)
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i told him you guys were alike!!!
if only he posted more, but i swear vincent, he's the canadian you
Quite a following you got going on here. I hope one day mass media will adopt your views...yeah right! I also noticed that your last two posts didn't have a single "f-word" in them. Is this a happier more well adjusted Vincent we're seeing? Guess only time will find out.
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I think if you care about the girl enough, you'll stick through any bullshit she might throw at you until she comes around. The best things in life don't come easy. That sounds kinda ghey, but it's true.
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I just wanted to add in the long list of comments. I applaud you on your views of females. I've just recently found that in myself, it helps to try and make yourself look better, but more than anything, it's all about your confidence. Correct me if I'm wrong, but guys also are attracted to confidence...right? In which case, if a girl is confident, it makes her beautiful on the inside which in return reflects on the outside. Just thought I'd add a thought or two..
ReplyDeleteSW:
ReplyDeleteI guess I have been in a rather good mood lately. Don't worry... I'm sure it won't last.
X:
You hit on the head with your little gay comment. People are too quick to give up when they don't see immediate results. Some things just require patience. Usually it's worth it in the end and if not, at least you tried.
Tina May:
You're absolutely right. A woman with confidence, is a major turn on (for me at least) but unfortunately for me, the women with the body type I'm attracted to are in their "boo-hoo, I'm so fat" stage. I understand where their mind set is at, but sometimes it boggles my mind that they just can't see how great looking they are. It would be nice to meet a woman who thinks she's beautiful in the inside AND the outside. I guess I have bad timing.
I think you're a very attractive young woman, btw. If only you were 10 years older. Sigh... bad timing strikes again! lol!
HA! I BET you've been happier lately! Ever since you started hanging out with that fitness INSTRUCTOR "friend" of yours, you've been as giddy as a school girl! You sure you're just friends?? *wink wink* ^_^
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I was gonna say how much I like your views on women, but I was beaten to it about a million other people. rofl! Good job anyway!
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