I have to say that I was quite surprised by all the positive comments left on the 'My decision' post. I expected a much more hostile reaction. I'm glad I was wrong.
I decided it would be more effective if I created a new post addressing said comments.
The main source of tension between us was a lack of communication. Every attempt to do so seemed to make things worse, thus building up feelings of mutual resentment.
Fortunately lines of communication were finally established and I was finally able to purge all hostile emotions feelings towards her out of my system. I don't like holding on to petty grudges or negative emotions about anyone, especially people I care about. To her credit, it's obvious that her training as a socialogist came in handy as she was able to quell her own hostile emotions enough to talk to me in a professional, objective manner.
That's one of the reasons for the blog. It helps me purge all that garbage out of my system or else it will just fester and build inside me until it explodes in a fireball of general nastiness. True, most posts can be pretty inflammatory, but that's what I'm feeling at the time and I make no excuses for it.
I'm also fortunate enough to have a close circle of friends and family to help me cope with whatever is bothering me over the years. Without them I'd probably have a baseball sized ulcer in my gut right now. They are all pretty awesome. Not as awesome as me, but they come pretty close.
Some of you have asked if I will become friends with the ex. I don't know. Like I said before, we've come to an understanding. It doesn't mean that we'll be skipping down the beach together anytime soon.
Although I have plenty of experience establishing friendships with other exes once an understanding is reached, this situation is unique and it's way too early to tell. If it happens, cool, if it doesn't, no hard feelings...
Right now I'm content with simply knowing where I stand which is all I wanted in the first place.
I hope that answers you questions. Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to clog my toilet.
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y'know that was a great piece of writing..... until the last sentence. TMI man! uggh!
ReplyDeletejeeeezus! you make it all sound so simple. or maybe I'm just that stupid when it comes to dealing with exes!
ReplyDeleteYou even complimented her?? damn. that's craaaaazy!
It's really not that hard of a concept. Instead of foaming at the mouth and calling them bitches, try putting away your macho pride for two seconds and attempt to TALK to the woman like a real man.
ReplyDeleteYou've obviously never tried this or else you wouldn't be in such awe of vincent's "god-like" reasoning powers.
He obviously sees something in this WOMAN that at least deserves his respect. Don't be so quick to judge her by reading something that was obviously written in the heat of the moment. How many of you are nice and rational when you're pissed off about something or someone. Only difference here is that vincent wrote it down in this blog. He was also man enough to take the posts down as a show of respect, despite the bitching of people like you to tell him to act like an asshole.
You don't know her or the whole story. NONE of us knows this so just give the woman the woman a freakin break!
So instead of bitching about your exes and women you don't know, why don't you try to follow your "hero's" example and be a fucking man.
That's enough soap box time.
-SW
Hahaha! Well said. You really shouldn't judge anyone unless you've walked a mile in their shoes. I know that sounds corny as hell, but it applies here.
ReplyDelete-Kasey
Gosh Vinnie! I haven't been on your blog thingy in awhile but I see you've got quite a bit of female drama going on! I'm not surprised by the outcome. You were always one of the few men I DIDN'T hate.
ReplyDeleteHow come I've never heard of this chick and when are you gonna visit me in St. Louie??
*Ray*
Well said. It's also good karma to be on friendly terms with former partners because you never know.
ReplyDeleteVery cool how all this turned out! I remember how pissed you were when all this began and now you're like a different person. Goes to show ya, that a little diplomacy goes a long way! Way to go!
ReplyDelete-T
as long as the chick isn't a psycho or anything, i guess you did the right thing. There's no point in letting things drag on over something petty
ReplyDeleteWish my ex was half the man you were. Well done.
ReplyDelete-Trin
Rock ON! Reading this has given me hope that not ALL men are complete bastards!
ReplyDeleteSo are you two talking to each other or what?
ReplyDeleteOops! Like I said, it's too early to tell at this point, but if it's decided that we should never talk to or see each other again, I bear no negative emotions towards her whatsoever. I'm too damn old and lazy to hold a grudge.
ReplyDeleteCool. Well I wish you luck.
ReplyDeleteThanks. Although hopeful things will work out, I'm still being cautiously realistic.
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