Do you have that one person in your life that you constantly defend from other people's accusations that he/she may not be the sharpest tool in the shed? Do find yourself making excuses for their behavior by calling them absent minded, scatter brained or confused? At the same time however, you deny the fact that just talking to this person seems to be draining your own intelligence. You continue on with the denial because after all, they're YOUR friend...you would never associate with a person like that.
Then one day, this person does or says something so incredibly stupid, so earth shattering retarded, so mind blowingly moronic, you have no choice but to face the brutal realization: This person is a DUMB ASS.
Suddenly it's your mission in life to put as much distance between you and this dolt as possible.
I came to this realization recently.
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Oh God!! I can so relate!!!
ReplyDeletelmao!! I'm dating someone like that right now!!
ReplyDeleteoh god - I dated someone like that for two years. Why did it take me so long to realise? the sex was good ;)
ReplyDeleteIt's all about the rose tinted glasses. I saw my ex again for the first time in almost a year and while we were talking I couldn't believe how stupid she was! I used to think that she was just goofy or free spirited, but she was just really dumb! Man i can't believe I spent 2 years with this idiot. I'm telling you, once you get rid of those rose tinted glasses, you start to see people (Especially ex girlfriends) for what they really are.
ReplyDeleteThe sex was average. :P
Figuring out that the ex isn't what you thought they were isn't always a bad thing. You can use this opportunity to get to know who they really are, even if they are a doofus. See what makes them tick, ask questions, how do they function? Study them. You may find out some interesting things you didn't know before. You don't have to like them, but you might find a new found respect for them.
ReplyDeleteMore importantly, you lessen your chances of getting stuck with another dud just like them. =S
After they've served their purpose, ditch their dumb ass and move on!
-Jess
"Rose tinted glasses" I thought I was the only one who used that term.
ReplyDeleteJess, I agree with everything you just said, except maybe the last part. Getting to know the REAL ex might open up a new side of them you never saw before and like you said, it helps you avoid getting involved with that type of person in the future.
I'm always open to keeping exes as friends (sometimes), but I like to learn from my mistakes, too.
Then again, I have VERY little patience for stupid people.
But what if you like the "real" person more than the person you wanted them to be? If it used to be somebody you used to date should you try to get back together with them armed with this new knowledge?
ReplyDelete-K
If I remember your story, your ex is already seeing someone right? In that case, I say DON'T do it. You shouldn't have to compete for ANYBODY. There are way too many available people out there for you to waste your time on such a stupid endeavor. Just be happy you're friends with him and move on.
ReplyDeleteIf this person isn't seeing somebody else then I say go for it! What have you got to lose? You never know until you try.
Anyway, that's what I think.
Personally I think exes are exes for a reason, but I guess it's possible.
ReplyDelete-SW
K: If there is another chick involved just forget about him! What are you thinking, girl?? Where's your pride?! You don't need that kind of drama! This isn't Elimindate! 0.o
ReplyDelete-CR
I had a roommate like that. I can't count how many times I had to make up excuses for her dumbass behavior. Thank god I finally realized that she was moron and got the hell outta there!
ReplyDeleteIt's even worse when "love" is involved. Love makes you blind and stupid and you let this person get away with shit that you normally wouldn't stand for. That's why I say find out as much about them as you can before you get serious and while you're still thinking clearly. That way you'll know they're not your type and you can bail out. If you wait and start developing feelings for them before getting this vital info, your judgement is clouded and you're more likely to start denying the obvious signs that this isn't the girl/guy for you and presto! You're stuck in a lousy relationship.
ReplyDeleteI think that's what you did with your most recent ex, Vincent. I know you hate to admit it, but your sister was right all along! ;) But at least you're learning from your mistakes. I'm glad you're taking a slower approach with the new girl.
Happy New year and good luck!
*Ray*
Yeah that would be my hippi friend, she baffels me alot. She is book smart but has no common sense whatsoever. I gave up on trying to reason with her thought process. Quite frankly I dont think she has a process of thought more like spurts. It is annoying.
ReplyDeletelol! So true! Book smarts doesn't always mean "intelligent"
ReplyDeleteomg! I have a cousin who is a chemical engineer and has more degrees than I can count, but outside the lab, he's an idiot. The ignorance of this man continues to astonish me.
-T
Happy New Year Vincent, hope the hangover was not too bad :)
ReplyDeleteWW: Thanks, girl! I had a blast! I kept it under control though!
ReplyDeleteRay:
ReplyDeleteIt's weird... not knowing where the ex was coming from gave her a sense of unpredictability that might have been frustrating as hell, but I've always been attracted to the unknown. It was kind of exciting and you know how easily I get bored. Trying to figure out what she wanted, what her motives were, etc, definitely made things...interesting. That's probably a big reason I stuck around as long as I did. She definitely wasn't boring! It sounds a little fucked up, I know.
Once I started talking to her rationally, I slowly started to understand what made her tick and I learned a lot of things about her I never knew before.
Eventually, that sense of unpredictability started to fade. That sense of excitement and attraction gradually disappeared as well. In other words: I woke up.
Now I see her in a totally new light and that has allowed me to truly move on.
Yeah, if I took a more rational approach from the beginning I probably could've avoided a whole lotta headaches, but in the end I learned a great deal and it will come in handy in the future so it all evens out!
I'm awesome like that.
So this "new light" you're seeing her in. Is that a good or bad thing?
ReplyDeleteI mean, did you have the same revelation I had about my dumbass of an ex??
It's very good, actually.
ReplyDeleteAnd sometimes your ex can change so much for the better that you are in awe. I always said I wished I had met him when he was older and wiser. Well, now he is.
ReplyDelete--Lisa aka Libby
bout time you woke up, vince! I'm so glad you finally see your ex for who she really is. A little disillusion can be a good thing!
ReplyDelete-CR
Libby:
ReplyDeleteI still think it's so funny that the less attracted I am to my ex the more attracted you are to YOUR ex! If that's the case, you must be head over heels for him by now!
I guess it's the universe trying even itself out.